Thank you all so much for your thoughtful responses on my post last week regarding good and bad competition. I’ve thought a lot about it the past week, and I’ve pretty much decided that this is something I have to work on and deal with. Like Erica said, avoiding things that can be a trigger is a good way to begin resolving your own issues, but it doesn’t solve anything in the end.
There will always be triggers around us. Whether it’s a friend who has become competitive with working out, a co-worker who insists on telling you over and over how much weight they’ve lost/need to lose, or just plain and simple “fat talk” from those around us.
I can’t do anything to stop those triggers. They are there, and unfortunately in our society I don’t see them going away anytime soon. So I have to learn to cope and basically get over it. If I can learn to do this, it won’t matter what people say around me. I’ll hopefully one day have the confidence in myself to know that I am fine the way I am – I don’t need to change a thing. Nor should I, if I’m doing it simply because of what someone has said.
It’s easy for me to run away from triggers – dealing with them head on is extremely difficult! But I know this is something I have to do for me – and hopefully like anything, the more I practice, the better at it I’ll get.
Are you able to talk yourself through negative triggers, or do you generally avoid them? I definitely have always avoided them. I don’t like confrontation, and I don’t like to be around people who make me feel bad! But I’m starting to realize that maybe it doesn’t have to make me feel bad, if I can talk myself through it.
Song of the Week
It’s rare that I hear a song and love it the very first time I hear it. But I heard this song, “I and Love and You” by the Avett Brothers on the radio last week, and fell in love. LOVE it! (Also love their song, “January Wedding.” Kind of makes me want to have a January wedding). Bonus – one of the lead singers is *hawt* (first guy in the video).